You may notice a few things as a newcomer or outsider joining a new group, job, church, or fellowship. Often, a new person comes with fresh eyes and picks up on the group’s positive and negative aspects. However, it’s best not to be too quick to point out any issues or make corrections. Instead, take the time to observe and learn the dynamics of the group or place. This will enable you to operate effectively within that new environment.
Respecting a group’s existing dynamics is essential. Remember, there are often reasons why issues persist within a group. They may have been tolerated, overlooked, or simply not noticed by the group. Additionally, long-term members may be hesitant to disrupt the status quo. If you immediately start pointing out or correcting these issues, you risk being perceived as an outsider, even if your observations are accurate. While some issues may require immediate attention, most are not emergencies and can be addressed over time.
When in a new environment, take the time to understand the group dynamics and identify key individuals by staying observant for a while. Exercise caution when sharing personal information, especially in the early stages. The person you confide in may prioritize the group’s interests over yours. Remember, dysfunctions exist everywhere, and no place or person is perfect. We are all a work in progress. So, take your time, absorb the information you’ve gathered, and use it to navigate the dynamics of your new environment.